If only they’d listened.
Like most people who adopt, we went through several years of desperately wanting to give [...]
Mar
Fight Mode Prevents Change – It Is A Systemic Issue Too
Barriers to Change in Social Work: Breaking the Cycle Change isn’t just necessary—it’s urgent. Every [...]
Mar
If only they had listened…………
my children would still live with their siblings. my daughter would not have [...]
Mar
Should I never have adopted? by P
Three months after a short but traumatic experience with adoption I had found a group [...]
Feb
Mum’s Agony
We Adopted Two Children, But Four Months Later We Were Forced to Put Them in [...]
Feb
Reflections on My Adoption Experience By FT
My partner and I had not tried for birth children. Instead, we wanted to provide [...]
Feb
Parenting At A Distance
Parenting at a Distance When my adopted son went back into care in July 2021, [...]
Feb
Child To Parent (And Sibling) Violence And Abuse Due To Early Life Trauma And Attachment Disorder
By Sian Cooper For anyone who reads this story, I would ask that you consider [...]
Jan
Visibility as an Ethnically Mixed Family By Augusto Nembrini
Being autistic brings its own challenges, especially when it comes to recognising certain behaviours in [...]
Jan
Generations of Adoption – 70 Years By Crystal
Adoption 70 years Ago to Today As a family, we have had a varied experience [...]
Jan
Our Disruption Story
Our Disruption Story Disruption is never anything other than heart-breaking for everyone involved. However, how [...]
Jan
Adoption Cult-ure
Many of you may know that there comes a point in the adoption support journey [...]
Jan
Open Letter
Dear social worker, When you were informed about the new case, did you feel excited, [...]
Jan
A Letter To Our Social Worker…
Letter From an Adopter To our social worker, I have been trying to stay balanced [...]
Jan
The “Wrong Kind of Disabled”
The “Wrong Kind of Disabled”: How Services Fail Adopted Children & Their Families By Madeleine [...]
Jan
A Guide to those facing Child Protection within Adoption Crisis
When requesting support beyond the level of a Child in Need plan, Local Authorities (LAs) [...]
Jan
Overview of Adoption Breakdown. What is S20 and how do you request it?
If you are an adoptive parent reading this article, then you are probably feeling about [...]
Jan
PATCH Newsletter January 2025
January 2025 I hope this email finds you well! We’re excited to share the first [...]
Jan
By An Adoptive Grandmother
It was an afternoon in late Spring when my husband and I first met our [...]
Jan
PATCH VIEWS ON…Allegations
This collection offers insights from parents caring for children with trauma symptoms, often encountering extremely [...]
Jan
Breaking Point: System Failures in Adoption and the Point of Ignorance
I’ve encountered countless families desperately seeking recognition for the inadequate practices they have faced during [...]
Jan
Honest Fuel
Please accept my apology for this honesty in advance. In October 2021, I began to [...]
Jan
Shattered Parents
We love our adopted children… but after years of violent attacks we had no choice [...]
Jan
A Different Take on Trauma?
Anon I appreciate this may be controversial in the adoption world, and I definitely agree [...]
Jan
Unwanted Object – A Poem
I feel like an object, misplaced Born to a womb of a foreign space, Thrown [...]
Jan
Dandelions – A Poem
It’s hearing “children are children” And “they just need love” Fake smiles and knowing that [...]
Jan
Betsy De Thierry’s Views
1. If a child is provided with positive safe care, is this enough for the [...]
Jan
PATCH Question Time: Answer Provided by Wild Ways Therapy
Do you believe early life trauma/adverse childhood experiences impact on a child’s functioning and development, [...]
Jan
Betrayed by the System: A Mother’s Fight for Justice
By Christine D I am a retired police officer and a single mother to a [...]
Jan
Committed To Building Change
Committed to Change in Adoption (Permanence) I am committed to building change in the world [...]
Jan
My name is Ellie, and this is my story
My husband and I adopted three siblings, hoping to give them a loving and stable [...]
Jan
Who’s safeguarding who? By Jenny
Traumarama By Jenny Who’s safeguarding who? Another new school, another panicky call from a teacher [...]
Jan
When is your hand not your hand? By Jenny
When is your hand not your hand? Answer: when it’s attached to your terrified daughter. [...]
Jan
Traumarama By Jenny
This is a blog about being mum to 11 year-old Rosie; half tiger, half lawyer, [...]
Jan
Roadhog By Jenny
I, Roadhog What would Lewis Hamilton do, I sometimes think, on the 25-minute drive to [...]
Jan
Jenny’s Story: Festive Koala
This is hard to write. As I reflect on the complexities of my relationship [...]
Jan