Author Archives: Patch Author

Adoption Cult-ure

Many of you may know that there comes a point in the adoption support journey [...]

Open Letter

Dear social worker, When you were informed about the new case, did you feel excited, [...]

A Letter To Our Social Worker…

Letter From an Adopter To our social worker, I have been trying to stay balanced [...]

The “Wrong Kind of Disabled”

The “Wrong Kind of Disabled”: How Services Fail Adopted Children & Their Families By Madeleine [...]

A Guide to those facing Child Protection within Adoption Crisis

When requesting support beyond the level of a Child in Need plan, Local Authorities (LAs) [...]

Overview of Adoption Breakdown. What is S20 and how do you request it?

If you are an adoptive parent reading this article, then you are probably feeling about [...]

PATCH Newsletter January 2025

January 2025 I hope this email finds you well! We’re excited to share the first [...]

By An Adoptive Grandmother

It was an afternoon in late Spring when my husband and I first met our [...]

Set Up to Fail?

Written by Polly If I went out tomorrow and got hit by a bus, I [...]

PATCH VIEWS ON…Allegations

This collection offers insights from parents caring for children with trauma symptoms, often encountering extremely [...]

Breaking Point: System Failures in Adoption and the Point of Ignorance

I’ve encountered countless families desperately seeking recognition for the inadequate practices they have faced during [...]

Honest Fuel

Please accept my apology for this honesty in advance. In October 2021, I began to [...]

Shattered Parents

We love our adopted children… but after years of violent attacks we had no choice [...]

A Different Take on Trauma?

Anon I appreciate this may be controversial in the adoption world, and I definitely agree [...]

Unwanted Object – A Poem

I feel like an object, misplaced Born to a womb of a foreign space, Thrown [...]

Dandelions – A Poem

It’s hearing “children are children” And “they just need love” Fake smiles and knowing that [...]

Betsy De Thierry’s Views

1. If a child is provided with positive safe care, is this enough for the [...]

PATCH Question Time: Answer Provided by Wild Ways Therapy

Do you believe early life trauma/adverse childhood experiences impact on a child’s functioning and development, [...]

Betrayed by the System: A Mother’s Fight for Justice

By Christine D I am a retired police officer and a single mother to a [...]

Who’s safeguarding who? By Jenny

Traumarama By Jenny  Who’s safeguarding who? Another new school, another panicky call from a teacher [...]

When is your hand not your hand? By Jenny

 When is your hand not your hand? Answer: when it’s attached to your terrified daughter. [...]

Traumarama By Jenny

This is a blog about being mum to 11 year-old Rosie; half tiger, half lawyer, [...]

Roadhog By Jenny

 I, Roadhog What would Lewis Hamilton do, I sometimes think, on the 25-minute drive to [...]

Jenny’s Story: Festive Koala

  This is hard to write. As I reflect on the complexities of my relationship [...]