A summary of our feelings since disrupting. Looking back, we were given poor advice and were not given enough support and direction. During the disruption, social services have lied in their reports, left us to manage our feelings, and have dragged us through the same legal system that abusive parents get shoved through. There are times I thought the guilt, shame, and sadness would break me. It’s been a long and slow road back to recovery and one that I am still on.
Before social workers assess, teach, and support adopters they need to spend time in adopters’ homes. They need to see the reality of what it’s like to live with a traumatised child/ren. Also, the legal system must change – there has to be a better approach to working with adopters who sadly disrupt.